Wise ‘n’ Wild Wednesday 08/11
Featuring my Wise and Wild Spottings of the Week
An unmarried Christian woman voices frustration and disillusionment with the courtship dating philosophy that was popularized by such books as “I Kissed Dating Goodbye,” and what she identifies as all the other contradictory and misguided dating advice dished out by the church.
“Once there was a good Christian girl who dreamed of growing up, getting married, and having children. She read all the right books and did all the right things. She read about how she was a princess in God’s sight and how he wanted the very best for her. She committed herself to sexual purity, to high standards, and to waiting for the good Christian man that God was going to bring her…”
I empathize with the emotional struggle, but wish she would have ended the tale with a wise rather than wild solution.
An FDA advisory committee has wisely advised against a proposed libido-boosting drug for women. It has decided that the makers of the investigational drug flibanserin (Girosa) — often dubbed the female Viagra — haven’t proved that the pill treats hypoactive sexual-desire disorder (HSDD) in women any better than placebo. But although the committee felt the drug isn’t ready for prime time, it agreed that HSDD — the existence of which has itself been called into question — is a legitimate medical disorder that deserves an FDA-approved treatment. Sad. We put women on the pill which carries the risk of decreased libido, and then need to invent a pill to boost their libido back up.
Earlier this month, Cameron Diaz joined the ranks of Angelina Jolie to publically declare that monogamy is an outdated concept. Both stars are now on record for saying that non-monogamous or serially-monogamous relationships are preferable to monogamous ones. The Sydney Morning Herald quoted Diaz as saying, “I don’t believe in sharing your bed with the same person your whole life.” Umm… I think that sounds like something the Wild Thing of Proverbs 7 might have said. Don’t you?
The world’s smallest mother is testing the limits of her fragile body, giving birth to a third baby and considering another pregnancy despite doctors’ advice against ever having children. Despite significant health risks associated with pregnancy, Stacey and her husband, Wil, are open to having more kids. This openness has made Stacey and Wil, who is training to be a pastor, favorite subjects of tabloid-style media ever since their third baby was born last November. Whether or not you agree with them taking the risk, their enthusiasm for parenthood and insistence that they have faith in God’s ability to care for their family is commendable as wise.
“One and Done,” Lauren Sandler’s Time cover story earlier this month, offers a series of reasons why many parents in the West are choosing to have only one child. The economic strain is one reason: “The U.S. Department of Agriculture reports that the average child in the U.S. costs his or her parents about $286,050 — before college,” reports Sandler. There’s also the happiness and freedom that apparently come to parents with only one child. Sandler says the vast majority of married couples understand marriage as primarily about happiness and fulfillment, rather than an institution designed to facilitate the “bearing and raising of children.”
Yup – let’s scare people with some inflated numbers about the financial hardship that children will bring, and remind them that “it’s all about me—children will cramp my ability to invest in myself, enjoy myself, and self-actualize!” WILD!